Let me first say that this was an email I receieved and I wanted to share it with you. It was written by a gentleman and it shares his very candid thoughts on the importance of sex in his (and what he presumes to be other mens) relationships.
As I get older, I feel the marriage pressure building. Getting sex is beginning to get harder. Not because its anything wrong with me, but because at this age (late twenties – mid thirties), women begin to start looking at you as “marriage potential.” So, whereas they would give it up on the first night, they now hold out in the hope that, you will see them as “a good girl,” worthy of wife’ing and marrying someday.
Every single man I know who is under 40 and married is cheating or has cheated on his wife. The rest of them are about to get divorced. This does not motivate me to walk down the aisle anytime in the near or distant future.
When I talk to them, it’s usually the same problem stated in various ways. They were bored or neglected sexually. With the rigors of marriage and life and kids—if they are involved—the woman tends to become consumed in other, non-sexual things. The man however is still looking to get some. I have noticed in my own relationships, that every time the woman gets mad, the first thing she does is stop having sex. It supposedly has something to do with some kind of emotional/physical connection that they have where they have to be in the right “emotional state” to want sex. Well, the only emotional state I have to be in to have sex is awake!
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